Flashback | Life Series

The year 2020 has been a year like no other. And we wish we never see it repeat.

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As we draw near the end of the year, most of us will be quick to list the New Year’s resolution. Sadly, the majority of us will also fail to follow through equally quickly.

We aspire much from ourselves. Whether we believe we can achieve them or not is a different story. And, strangely, we expect different results through the same actions or inaction.

As the Earth spins, days turn into months, months into years, our lives will come to the inevitable time shortly. And at that moment, what do we expect to see when we reflect?

I recently came across a book by Brownie Ware – Regrets of the Dying. I was reluctant at first, didn’t want to feel all sad and gloomy, but I caved in and read the book. I am glad I did.

Working with patients in their final hours, Brownie Ware learned that almost everyone had a common set of regrets. She arranged them into five regrets, common amongst most patients. I will mention just one of them that resonated with me the most.

Today’s post intends not to spoil your happy weekend but to give you a friendly nudge to see your day-to-day lives through different lenses.

“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”.

We often spend our lives pleasing others and trying hard to fit in. Social validation becomes supremly important that in the process, we lose our identity. The choices we make are not ours or those we want, but those that will earn others’ confirmation and acceptance.

I am not suggesting to you or myself that we drop everything and rebel. I am reminding ourselves that if we are living blindfolded lives, then it’s now that we have to take them off. Now is the time to find our purpose, values, and real identity and use them as our guiding light for the rest of our lives.

You will probably earn everything following other’s dreams, and one of them will be regretful. Earn everything, not regrets. Draw the courage to live the life you desire and not what others expect of you. I hope it’s not too late for us.

Thank you for sharing some of your precious time with me each week.

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With gratitude, until next week. 

Razak
CommonInterest